I recently read this short, profanity-laced post from Mark Manson and I loved it. I  loved it because for pretty much all of my 20s I’ve been trying to chase the whole “finding my passion” unicorn. [Also, I will insert here that it is pretty dang fortunate to be chasing slash concerned with “finding my passion”. What percentage of people in the world get to focus on the top little triangle in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs??].

Since I was 20 I have worked at two jobs and one internship in research (all of which I disliked, maybe that’s obvious since I switched careers), one job as a medical assistant and now I’m at job number two as a nurse.

Of course I see a pattern. I’m a job hopper. I get bored. But most of all, I think it’s dumb to spend 40+ hours a week for 40+ years of the prime of your life just “getting through the work week” to make a paycheck to buy a bunch of crap to fill your unnecessarily large house. My hero has a lot to say on this.

So I know that part of the issue is finding a job that has upward mobility and also doesn’t require that I be there 9-to-5. Hooray for nursing and finding a flexible position!

Here are some excerpts from the post:

The common complaint among a lot of these people is that they need to ‘find their passion.’

I call bullshit. You already found your passion, you’re just ignoring it. Seriously, you’re awake 16 hours a day, what the fuck do you do with your time? You’re doing something, obviously. You’re talking about something. There’s some topic or activity or idea that dominates a significant amount of your free time, your conversations, your web browsing, and it dominates them without you consciously pursuing it or looking for.


Who says you need to make money doing what you love? Since when does everyone feel entitled to love every fucking second of their job? Really, what is so wrong with working an OK normal job with some cool people you like, and then pursuing your passion in your free time on the side? Has the world turned upside-down or is this not suddenly a novel idea to people.

Why is this such a thing with the “newer” working generation? Is it because “we” (I know I’m grossly generalizing) were coddled growing up? ‘Murica says yes:

NYT article that supports my thoughts:

“This is the most affirmed generation in history…they were raised believing they could do whatever they wanted to, that they have skills and talents to bring to a job setting.

“And when they’re lucky enough to get a job they’re basically told, ‘Be quiet, you don’t really know anything yet.’ For a lot of them, this is a tremendous clash between their expectations and the reality of the job.”

…“I think it has less to do with lack of conscientiousness — it’s more a recognition that no company is going to bury you when you die… you’ve seen your parents go through large companies that don’t take care of them, and you realize that you’re responsible for your own well-being.”

WSJ article that supports my thoughts:

Millennials want loads of attention and guidance from employers…Millennials also want things spelled out clearly. Many flounder without precise guidelines but thrive in structured situations that provide clearly defined rules and the order that they crave…Millennials also expect a flexible work routine that allows them time for their family and personal interests.

One more article:


Last thought from the Manson post:

A child does not walk onto a playground and say to herself, “How do I find fun?” She just goes and has fun.

If you have to look for what you enjoy in life, then you’re not going to enjoy anything.


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